Don't Judge ...Feel !

"I don't care what you say" ....is an often used phrase in today's world and yet most of the people are so eager to know what others think and feel about them .Other's conceptions and misconceptions about our actions, speech, thoughts and emotions form an integral part of our self worth and further self analysis .

Since a major portion of our waking life and our communication happens online through mails , chats , whats app messages, most of it is based on what we come to know through colored reflections , refraction and filters of internet communication .These are both incomplete and grossly inaccurate .

It is dangerous to build the image of a living and thriving human being solely based on internet communication .If more than 70% of complete human communication (content sent to content received in real life ) is through non verbal means ,gestures,tonality,accentuation and disposition,we can hardly get to know a person online .And if we think , we know someone , it is probably our impression of him/her .In most of the cases, it is a superimposition of what we would like to see the person as .

This is also the reason for largely reported cases of real life failures of online relations .

This brings us to another important question and that is how much of our conscious mind and emotions are filled with internet based connections and interactions ? How much of our belief systems, value sets and paradigms of life are built by the inputs we get from our virtual life ?

And if it be so ...are we approximating, oversimplifying and truncating people personalities solely based on these observations ? Can people be actually different from what they seem to be ? Are we unfair to people in making certain impressions of them ?

A complex web of friendships , acquaintances with numerous interactions woven over the platform of world wide web ....seems to be hell of a big illusion ...

Is it time to get real ??

End of Absence

End of Absence

Absence, distance and time are nature's ways of maintaining the intensity and freshness in relationships. Remember the time we waited for weeks for a post card of a close relative ? Or the time we waited for months for our relatives to visit us . Or the tears we shed for those who were so far away from us, that if we wished to talk to them that very moment it was impossible .Frustrating distance ! Technology almost destroyed this long wait except when the person is no more . Now people are available at the click of the mouse . Just press a key on the phone and the person can be reached even if he is far across the seven seas . This has however led to some other problems in modern civilizations."End of Absence " and "Over Presence" . At any point of time you can see hundreds of glowing contacts that can be contacted the very next micro second ,but you don't because they are always there .They are all just there . Always Available ! Seldom anyone of them wishes to engage in a real life , fresh connect .Does over presence make us less wanted ? and Less valuable ? I have always tried to treat net presence the same way as real presence . Netiquettes should not be different from etiquette as finally we are dealing with human beings . End of absence has also led to people losing some beautiful gifts of god ."Solitude , Day dreaming , reflection and contemplation " necessary for all of us to constantly be in touch with our innermost selves . Some how my current reflections on online communication resonates so much with this pod cast .